Image by ___federico___ via Flickr...is that no one has ever given you the users's guide for it. You sit with all pieces, like Ikea closet and you can't simply figure out how to assemble something that will hang together and make sense. All your stuff is scattered on the floor while you desperately try to fit the screws in the wrong holes. It looks messy. There are some friends trying to be clever and give you advise but after closer inspection you find out that either they bought their closets at fancy designers or just glued the pieces to make an impression it holds.
Whether you like it or not, you will have to sit on the floor amongst your fancy dresses, you are somehow too big to wear and fancy shoes that aren't comfortable at all to walk in and figure it out on your own how to make it work. It will take a broken nail or two, lots of swearing and crying, but finally you make it. And no matter how bad og good your closet will look, you can be proud you have done it on your own.